post by Jade Y Gunver
In our daily lives, we deal with a lot of things, mostly its the mundane and the scheduled – but inevitably, at some point there is a tragedy. A heart stopping event. An accident, an illness,we lose a loved one.
This has just happened to me.
Its not something we plan for or anticipate. Its not something that should happen to us. We are too busy for this.Too involved in our schedule.
But it happens, And our life stops.
If we have no previous experience directly of death and loss in our lives, it is a shock and loss that seems insurmountable.
But it is surmountable. It has happened, and we must cope.
We still need to be strong, courageous, and most importantly we need to act normal, do our daily routines. You still need to pay your bills, make your phone calls, take your shower and smile.
I’ve lost a loved one. He was a character. When I say “Character” , Abraham Lincoln’s quote comes to my mind “Character is like a tree and reputation like its shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing.” He was a strong tree, but still humorous. I remember, how many times I invited him to States and he used to tell me, “Okay if you get me a new wife, I’ll come.”
He was a good husband, father, grandfather, friend to many and an uncle to me.
He was the recent one, but not the only one. I lost my grandma, my aunt and my best friend after I moved to United States.
The common thing, for me, the most sorrowful thing for me, is I couldn’t attend their funerals.This brings a lot of guilt and sadness, equally. It was and is very hard.
Its a cliche to write, but in truth so important to be able to have some way to make a connection at these times.And I am so thankful for my Social Media sites and connections I have built up to reach out to so many, and for them to reach back to me. To be able to ‘talk’ over the distance and the grief. To have, actually, connection.
Its not, of course the same as being there, but without these sites and this access to others even in this ‘digital’ way, the coping, for me, would have been so much harder. So much more lonely.
Because of Social media sites, so many people have reached out to me, offered what they can. We all received prayers, comfort and I’m so grateful for that.
If you think what is my gain with Social Media. Those sites are just time wasters, people talking about nothing. Well… a lot of times, especially in tough times, you find they are people talking and connecting about their deepest feelings
Think about this, you will find you receive what you need…
GOD REST THEIR SOULS IN PEACE
Jade Y Gunver with 12 years experience in Media and PR, specializes in helping business deal strategically with the on-line marketplace.